Last week, I hit a personal milestone and turned 20. My boyfriend kept laughing at how I was now older than him and ‘in a new decade.’ I kept brushing it off and sighing that I had in fact grown up and out of my teens – it was weird not being a teenager anymore, and the birthdays I had once looked forward to were now becoming days I couldn’t really care about.
However, I realised turning 20 isn’t necessarily a bad thing. I was speaking with my cousin who had just turned 30 and couldn’t feel better about her age. She reminded me that my 20s could actually be the best decade of my life – it’s the decade where all the so-called ‘big’ moments happen! Perhaps you get that job you’ve been wanting since you started uni, or you find the love of your life, or it could even be when you buy your first house. We might finally be able to do all these things that we’ve been told we’ll be able to do one day. It’s the decade when we graduate from university and finally go into the world of work – a place we’ve been educating ourselves to be for the past 20 years of our lives. This is the exciting decade, albeit scary and daunting and definitely overwhelming, but it still sounds like the decade I’ll be talking about when I’m old and grey; repeating the same stories to everyone around me – about me in my 20s.
If you think about all the famous TV shows out there; Friends is all about the lives of 6 twenty-somethings, who are wondering through all the ups and downs, simply trying to figure out what to do and how to get where they want to be. The same sort of story line can be seen in New Girl, How I Met Your Mother, Sex and the City and even in Suits. I’ve been watching these programs whilst growing up, and couldn’t stop imagining how cool it would be to be them!
Most importantly, for me anyway, I like the way I can look back on the last 10 years of my life and just laugh about the stupid haircuts, and Facebook posts that I thought were cool. It all seemed so important at the time, and each worst day felt like the worst thing that could possibly happen whereas each best day would lead to countless social media uploads.
At the end of the day, I think it’s about learning from everything we go through and trying to make ourselves better, our relationships with others better and just being you. If anything, we’ve just come out of the decade where we’re getting to know what we like, and not just following everyone else’s tastes.
The teens were the years where we developed our individuality, eccentricities and the identities that we’ll take forward with us to all the other wonderful decades ahead.