It’s the end of term, how on earth has that happened? As per, I keep seeing the incessant tweets of ‘new year, new me’ and can’t help thinking, do I really need to be a new me?
I understand the New Year is all about new beginnings, new opportunities and the supposed fresh start of leaving the past year behind. And yet, why must the New Year mean changing who you are?
Yes, you probably got too drunk one too many times, believe me I have gone to many a seminar with yesterday’s makeup on. And ok, that diet went south pretty swiftly. I told myself I’d cook everyday – I’m now on first name turns with my local PFC shop. And no, you didn’t join all the societies/clubs/programmes you said you would when you began in September. But really, do you actually give a sh*t?
I’m being serious, when you look at what you’ve achieved this year, does it matter if you haven’t ticked everything off your list?
At the end of the day, you’re at a Russell Group university studying a f*cking hard degree, living on your own for the first time, paying rent, probably holding down a job or extracurricular activities – you aren’t superman, you can’t do everything.
Yes, set yourself manageable goals (which I discuss in our most recent printed edition) but don’t think you have to totally reinvent yourself for 2018.
It has been a sh*t stain of a year, I think we can all agree, but in the grand scheme of things I doubt you’ve done that bad.
I’ve had about a million breakdowns, broken up with two people (one of whom I cheated on), had an abortion, eaten three times my own weight in fried chicken and drunk a vineyards worth of wine. However, I also still achieved a high 2:1 in First Year, I’ve made some amazing friends at QM, I’m finally taking control of my mental health and I don’t want to kill myself everyday anymore.
Yes, I want to continue my progress in the New Year, but do I really want to pretend that 2017 didn’t happen and just forget my mistakes? The answer is no, if you blank out your errors and try to steam forward, 9 times out of 10 you’ll just fall back into the same pattern.
Own your mistakes, they make you who you are.