As my boyfriend always reminds me, I am a huge fan of girl on girl appreciation. Don’t worry, I am not about to launch into some feminist rant, but I am about to speak from the heart. As a woman, I think it is important to show love and respect for women, whether they be our closest friends and family or strangers we see on the street and in the media. As I have got older, I have become more and more perplexed by girls and women and their behaviour towards one another. Over the years, some of my friendships have broken down due to jealousy and insecurity and every time I have lost a friend, I have found it so hard to pick myself up again, or to avoid blaming myself or thinking that I could have acted differently. Going into 2019, I am going to stop scrutinising myself or succumbing to the pressure of other people and society to act in a certain way. For the first time I feel comfortable in my own skin and with the people I have in my life. I have found an amazing group of girls at uni to add to the supportive friendships I already have. These friendships refresh me every day as they are characterised by nothing but love. Instead of trying to put each other down or resorting to bitchiness, we just act our silly selves and know we can talk to each other about everything and anything. Of course we all have our own insecurities and suffer from self doubt but we help each other through.
A little while ago, my soppy self sent a link to the song ‘Thursday’ by singer-songwriter Jess Glynne into my uni group chat with the message: ‘I love you all and this song made me think of you. It’s about being comfy in your own skin and honestly I think you are all beautiful people inside and out and with or without make up’. Going into 2019, I think everyone should try and find self-love, as hard as it can be, and also to try and help those around us to love themselves too. Together we should build ourselves up. Jess Glynne’s song is the perfect anthem for this going forwards, it is an ode to simply being yourself and being content in your own skin. Speaking to BBC Radio 2 breakfast show host Chris Evans, in her own words, Jess explained that “[t]he song itself is about accepting yourself for who you are and not abiding by society and feeling like you have to abide by the pressures that people put on you – to wear make up and be perfect at all times. Being you is just fine … Who I am is enough.” Here is an extract from the song so you can read her message for yourself:
And there are many things that I could change so slightly
But why would I succumb to something so unlike me?
I was always taught to just be myself
Don’t change for anyone
I wanna love, I don’t wanna cry
Don’t want these tears inside my eyes, yeah
Don’t wanna wake up and feel insecure
I wanna sing, I wanna dance
I wanna feel love inside my hands again
I just wanna feel beautiful
Together, we can help each other to fall in love with our own insecurities and embrace them as being a part of who we are. Because the more we let our insecurities take over our lives, we are actually stopping ourselves from being happy. So as 2019 is approaching, take a good look at yourself in the mirror and learn to appreciate the person you see reflected back, try to stop comparing yourself to other people or to let their comments have an impact on you. Just be yourself and you’ll attract like minded people and don’t give up on those friends who might need your help to accept themselves. Self love and love of other people is truly the greatest gift to be given in life. So who is going to join me and make ‘Thursday’ the new 2019 anthem?
Listen to the song here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0v30jKH958