In today’s day and age, feminism if finally rising and gaining awareness. And though that’s fantastic, there are also some negative quirks.
I feel as though some people interpret feminism in the wrong way or misunderstand it. For example, a woman wants to be a stay at home wife or mum and so that must mean her husband’s forcing her or she doesn’t know about her rights. How about she’s just doing what makes her comfortable and this is what she actually wants. Not all women need to want the same thing.
Now hold your horses before you come stampeding through the screen. I’m not saying everyone thinks this and I’m not degrading feminism at all. I literally live by Mary Wollstonecraft’s words – “I do not wish for women to have power over men but power over themselves”. What amazing words to live by.
Feminism is about equality, not women being superior than men. It’s about establishing the equality of genders and how biology does not make one gender more significant than the rest. We are all human beings, we all bleed red and we all live and die.
Additionally, some misunderstand feminism to mean that now all women need to be powerful business women and be all over the news and social media. And while that’s great and it does motivate and encourage people to share the wonders of feminism, it also in a way pressurises other women to be like that. All women do not need to be the same.
Also, being independent doesn’t mean you have to distance yourself from everyone and never ask for help. Asking for help doesn’t make you any less of the in-control woman that you are and doesn’t make you helpless or vulnerable. Though being vulnerable is a good thing sometimes – it means you’re letting people in and expressing yourself for who you are.
To me, the whole concept of feminism is to be yourself without the fear of being judged – by society due to your gender or by other women simply for wanting different things. No one, women or men, should have to feel pressured to be someone they’re not. We shouldn’t disregard one another’s opinions or values and we should all respect each other.
By being yourself, you accept who you are and sometimes you just have to focus on yourself and love yourself.
And that’s awesome. It’s healthy – mentally, emotionally and physically.